It’s interesting how you can degrade and discriminate against women, but don’t do ANYTHING to even slightly annoy or slander any racial group, because you’ll GET IT to the tune of MURDER. The Western Standard published a story on the Danish cartoons depicting Muhammed, and now people are up in arms. No such fuss has been made over porn that is violent towards or features women in an INCREDIBLY insulting manner (and I'm not talking about extreme religious groups that want to ban any kind of sexuality or nudity). I guess women are too complacent or we’re all so desensitized to it? And yet, on the other hand, people freaked out about Janet Jackson’s BOOB? Big F’ing deal!!!! Nudity is natural and beautiful (most of the time, hehe), but violence and degradation is UGLY and demoralizing. I can’t completely wrap my brain around it.
There, I got it out… Now, besides the VERY serious matters mentioned above and other important gender-related issues in this society (i.e. exploitation and degradation of women by sex slavery and domestic violence/murder), there’s something specific I have a beef about today:
Lack of male gratuitous nudity.
As I inferred in a previous blog, I think the playing field should be evened out a little more between men and women. I realize that there are some inherent biological differences that cannot be denied, however I’d like to scrap some of the more societal types of prejudices. I’m talking about one simple, possibly rectifiable issue- gratuitous male nudity. Why is it that when I watch a male singer’s music video, there are mostly half-naked women, but when I watch a female singer’s music video, the singer herself is naked??? WHERE ARE THE NAKED MEN??? Also, if you watch films, there seems to be a lot of boobs… whenever they can squeek them in somewhere (plot related or not), they do. However, I’ve seen films where they COULD have thrown in some male skin and didn’t even take the opportunity! As females we are repeatedly robbed on this issue! For instance, in the movie Hitch, Will Smith’s character crashed on the couch of Eva Mendez’s character. This would have been the PERFECT opportunity to have him take his shirt off but NO. WTF? I mean, one of the perks in watching a Will Smith movie is to catch a glimpse of his perfect body, no? And what about the female equivalent of MAXIM magazine? I would buy that!!!! And let’s not even get into the whole female vs. male stripper thing… wait, why don’t we then? Let’s GET IT ON.
A while ago I tried to find a peeler bar for women, one somewhat equivalent to the “gentlemans” clubs out there. In other words, Full Monty at the very least (I don’t really need to see him spread it and show me his icky brown eye). Anyways, guess what, there was ONE PLACE in Alberta dedicated to the Full Monty. At the time, my roomie (Rose) and I were livid. Why is it that you can see PU%&Y any time of day, any day of the week, but we can’t even find a naked man to watch for my friend’s stagette?
This is what Rose wrote (back then) on the topic:
A couple years ago, me and a good friend were going through tough breakups. We decided that the perfect solution for our sorrows would be to go out for a night on the town with a group of our good friends and take in some local talent. We assumed that since there are an abundance of strip clubs in Edmonton, for the “gentleman,” that there should be an abundance of venues that featured some similar entertainment geared at the “gentlewoman”. After calling around to almost ALL the clubs in Edmonton, we found out that women, in the opinion of someone, were too gentle to see a naked man. At most, we could go somewhere and pay outrageous prices for drinks and cover charges to see a man dancing in boxers. And that is only on certain nights of the week. At first we thought, with women there just isn't as much of a market for it. Some consider watching a man waving his schlong around a tad.............. grotesque. We thought this unfair and left it at that.
Meanwhile, I had attended a strip club geared for men out of curiosity. Once inside, I witnessed female strippers completely naked, spread-eagled sitting on the stage, touching themselves and allowing drunk men to whip coins at their (not so) privates. Some of these women were excellent and talented dancers. Some of these women love their job and love their overt sexuality; others were doing it out of desperation. All of these women were daughters, sisters, nieces, cousins, and/or mothers. Contributing members of society.
During a future conversation with my friend, I discovered (what she’d been told at least) that male Full Monty was illegal in Alberta. Let me get this straight; I can go on any given night and watch some poor girl get her genitals whipped by coins, but seeing a (gasp!) PENIS is ILLEGAL! I know that the sex industry is geared towards men as that is inevitably what will bring in the most profit but at the same time, it's a double whammy of discrimination against women. First of all, it is okay to exploit women (our mothers, daughters, sisters) by letting them writhe around on stage, throwing coins at them so they have to get down on their hands and knees scrambling around like desperate beggars for rent money, but men are above that? Secondly, a man can embrace and openly enjoy his sexuality by being able to go see strippers any day of the week, but this isn't true for a woman? I guess the answer to that is that THEIR mothers,daughters and sisters (us) are probably “not like that”.
Friends recently discovered during a stagette party that going to see male rippers just left them feeling "ripped off"! Once fueled with alcohol, women can be just as boisterous, enthusiastic and horny as drunk men, and likewise, wouldn't mind seeing, exploiting and objectifying the opposite sex. I am not suggesting we ban female strippers, but lets level out the playing field a bit. If it’s illegal to see men dancing naked for profit, then it should be illegal to see women.
I discovered upon further investigation that it’s not illegal for men to bare their schlongs in public… however the Alberta Liquor and Gaming commission have made the laws so strict when there is nudity involved, that clubs strictly catering to women watching male strippers probably wouldn’t make a go of it. They can have “ladies’ nights” where the men strip to boxers, but that’s all we get.
7 comments:
YAH!
Thanks to Deneen for thinking up the catchy title to this blog:) hehehe.
I'm sure this has nothing to do with a double standard and everything to do with the "Bobbit" incident years ago. Ever since then men are not courageous enough to take it all off for fear that some angry females(as above?) would emasculate them during a "break-up". That's probably why it has someyhing to do with alcoholic beverages. After all, Mich, you did say that you ladies were looking for this place following a "break-up" and you have on previous blogs referred to that dreaded PMS thing. Society has an obligation to protect its citizens.
You women are fortunate. Yours is tucked away out of harms way.
HAHAHAHAHA ..... that is classic! You kill me al!
Businesses exist for the sole purpose of making money. If you truly believe that this is an unsatisfied business niche, why would you not take advantage of such a glaring opportunity to serve this market? One would think that if in fact this was an untapped market, the very same crooks ….. oops my bad …. people, that have cornered the current market would be running such clubs. After all … cash is king!
My guess is that you would have a hard time dragging the as much as 50% female audience out of the current genre of strip club to get them to go next door and watch some hairy dude chuck his junk around in a frightening display of ummmm …. Gulp …. talent? While this may have met your fancy that one night … is it something you would be prepared to support on a regular basis? If so … maybe your ship has come in? If not ….. my guess is that there are allot of woman that feel the same way.
I don't think our 'parts' are out of harm's way, although I appreciate the humor of the Bobbit reference.
I think if women knew this type of place was available and it was marketed properly, it might stand a chance. This would be particularly true if women went there just to "shoot the shit and hang out, with the strippers just in the 'background'" as a lot of guys CLAIM is the usual scene there.
Society is screwed if you think women wouldn't go for this, I think they aren't USED TO frequenting this type of establishment, because it hasn't even been available to them!
We'd have to shatter the stigma and the stereotypes, and market the thing right, in order to make this thing fly. It's kind of like how x-rated movies are starting to cater to women more than before (although I definitely don't think this has happened yet), it's all definitely still geared towards male fantasy because that's where the main market is.
I still want the choice though!!!!
What disturbed me the most was the coin whipping. How some women can subject themselves to that degradation is beyond me. Its one thing to be comfortable in your sexuality, its another thing to have coins whipped at it like you are a peice of meat. Do you think men would sit there and have women whip coins at their gonads? Where is the respect? Where is the respect for ourselves!
Yes, the coin whipping. I've heard of strippers in other provinces being VERY insulted by male frequenters of Alberta "gentlemans'" clubs whipping coins at them... and so they should be...
Deneen and I figure that the "ladies' club" we open should be called, "Freedom of Shlong." hehehe
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